Okay, so I just started smoking very recently and I have always been interested in it mostly because of my dad.
My dad only smokes every once in a while, like whenever we go camping, or if one of his buddies come into town, or if he just needs to think. And when he does it, he just has this glow about him, like he always looks at peace when he does it and looks wise. And I always liked watching him smoke when he is with a small group of friends and they are all sitting there have really deep conversations and just enjoying one another's company.
However he does not want me or my brother to smoke period. But it really has never been a discussion because for most my life I was never interested in smoking. One day I saw my dad enjoying a pipe on the porch, and that was the moment I wanted to start. I really just want to smoke with my dad.
Well I started with a friend because he knew I was interested and I didn't know if I would ever work the nerve up to tell my dad.
I have smoked twice already (yes, I know not that much, but when I start to do something do I ever rarely stop)and I would love for my third time to be with my dad, but I don't really know how to tell him. I mean regardless of I really think he will only be mad for maybe a week or two at max. But I just do not know how to bring it up to him.
If he says no and doesn't want me to smoke while I live in his house then I will totally respect that, but since I will be enlisting into the military and will be out of his house then, I will have smoke with me regardless. But I would still like to smoke with him before that.
I mean I am just remembering what my dad always tells me about his dad because of his dad passing away (my grandpa, I was too young to know him). He always says that you really don't know how much time you have left, because his last normal conversation with his dad was right before he went to boot camp and his dad had a stroke. He never realized that everything would change like that, and so always tells me (and my brother) to cherish this time because we don't know when it will end. And he always tell me to beware of the consequences of joining the military because some things might not be the same, because for him several family members died while he was in boot camp itself.
So in that sense it really scares me and that is why I would like to have this special moment with my dad while I know that we still have this time together. And that even if he is still healthy after my boot camp (which I know he will be) that it just will not be the same. I want to have a smoke with my dad who is still in charge of me. Once in the military it won't be him giving the orders any more which means that our relationship will change. So I really want to have a smoke with him before that happens.
Not trying to ramble, but I just truly want to have this moment with my dad. And so my question is, how can I bring this topic up to him and to convince him. I mean if I walk up and say that I smoke, he isn't going to be very happy.
So any suggestions of how to start this conversation with him. Or maybe any stories of how you told your dad (parents). Guess I am really just looking for some motivation to tell him.
Also, I am 19
My dad only smokes every once in a while, like whenever we go camping, or if one of his buddies come into town, or if he just needs to think. And when he does it, he just has this glow about him, like he always looks at peace when he does it and looks wise. And I always liked watching him smoke when he is with a small group of friends and they are all sitting there have really deep conversations and just enjoying one another's company.
However he does not want me or my brother to smoke period. But it really has never been a discussion because for most my life I was never interested in smoking. One day I saw my dad enjoying a pipe on the porch, and that was the moment I wanted to start. I really just want to smoke with my dad.
Well I started with a friend because he knew I was interested and I didn't know if I would ever work the nerve up to tell my dad.
I have smoked twice already (yes, I know not that much, but when I start to do something do I ever rarely stop)and I would love for my third time to be with my dad, but I don't really know how to tell him. I mean regardless of I really think he will only be mad for maybe a week or two at max. But I just do not know how to bring it up to him.
If he says no and doesn't want me to smoke while I live in his house then I will totally respect that, but since I will be enlisting into the military and will be out of his house then, I will have smoke with me regardless. But I would still like to smoke with him before that.
I mean I am just remembering what my dad always tells me about his dad because of his dad passing away (my grandpa, I was too young to know him). He always says that you really don't know how much time you have left, because his last normal conversation with his dad was right before he went to boot camp and his dad had a stroke. He never realized that everything would change like that, and so always tells me (and my brother) to cherish this time because we don't know when it will end. And he always tell me to beware of the consequences of joining the military because some things might not be the same, because for him several family members died while he was in boot camp itself.
So in that sense it really scares me and that is why I would like to have this special moment with my dad while I know that we still have this time together. And that even if he is still healthy after my boot camp (which I know he will be) that it just will not be the same. I want to have a smoke with my dad who is still in charge of me. Once in the military it won't be him giving the orders any more which means that our relationship will change. So I really want to have a smoke with him before that happens.
Not trying to ramble, but I just truly want to have this moment with my dad. And so my question is, how can I bring this topic up to him and to convince him. I mean if I walk up and say that I smoke, he isn't going to be very happy.
So any suggestions of how to start this conversation with him. Or maybe any stories of how you told your dad (parents). Guess I am really just looking for some motivation to tell him.
Also, I am 19
