There is a lot of psychology involved with this old adage. My wife felt obligated to leave on the long trip at the request of our son to help out with taking care of 5 grand kids because his wife works and his job required him leave for several days. I first felt angered because of the cost involved and the long list of timely jobs left for me. At first I felt guilty at spending a lot of time enjoying the solitude relaxing with old friends ( pipes) . I think at times we all need space to relax and count our blessings. Now I can take time to pick out what job that needs to be be first for me, prepare my favorite food, even ignore the lawn mowing. As the week goes by I will have a better outlook on all the little things done to makes me feel like a King ( morning coffee at the ready, breakfast, lunch and dinner. A touch of being lonely will set in. One of the problems will be to hussle up and try to remember all the assigned things that needed to be done. Taking on two jobs requires a lot of effort but there is a lot of truth in the old adage being alone is not all it is cracked of to be.
Absence Makes The Heart Grow Fonder
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The problem with old adages is that... absence makes the heart grow fonder... While the cats away the mice will play... distance lends enchantment to the view... for every one that rings true, there are a whole bunch more that contradict it.
For me... when my wife is gone for any length of time, that Buddy Guy song... "ain't no sunshine when she's gone" plays in my head.
For me... when my wife is gone for any length of time, that Buddy Guy song... "ain't no sunshine when she's gone" plays in my head.
I think Bill Withers sang this one, Buddy is great but a little more upbeat.
Just because it is interesting... Bill never finished the song. It was then recorded and altered by a ton of people, including Paul McCartney, but Buddy's version is my favorite. I set at a table not five feet from Buddy when I heard him sing it.
The adage rings true for me as well, especially the "better outlook" part. When my wife leaves the house, even for a short time, it illuminates all the things she does, both great and small, and my appreciation for her as a human being (already quite high to begin with) increases yet more.
The thread title also reminds me of another truthful adage: "Abstinence makes the church grow fondlers." But that's a thread unto itself, and one probably better suited for the forum's graveyard shift...buncha weirdos!
The thread title also reminds me of another truthful adage: "Abstinence makes the church grow fondlers." But that's a thread unto itself, and one probably better suited for the forum's graveyard shift...buncha weirdos!
I always think of the Bill Withers' recording. Did Guy write it, sing the original, or cover it?
Bill started writing it, played it live for years, but never finished the song. It was played live and recorded by many people, before Bill recorded it as a B-side on a single. B-side on single 45's were where you put music that no one will ever hear, because the radio stations never played B-side, except for this song. Buddy contributed to the lyrics and music, but he recorded it after Bill's version. But, that doesn't mean that Buddy wasn't playing it live for years before Bill recorded it.
Blues songs are a totally different breed than other forms of music. Everyone disses Elvis for appropriating Big Mama Thornton's Hound Dog, but that song goes back 50 years before Bib Mama sang it, and may have evolved from way earlier in its music. This is why when you have a bunch of blues albums or even some Early Rolling Stones the credits always go back to "traditional." Blues existed long before copyright and trademarks. No one owns the music, the music owns the musician.
Thanks, Michael for a great post. And yeah, there were a lot of covers.
LOL, the idea of the wife being gone is usually better than the reality - she'll be off overnight come Saturday and I'm sure by Sunday mid-morning I'll be wondering when she's getting back.
The youngest dog? He stretches across her side of the bed and revels in it, haha.
The youngest dog? He stretches across her side of the bed and revels in it, haha.