Other suggestions: Keep her smoking sessions short, small bowl or partial bowl. Switch between the non-aro and aro, if you are going with two blends. You should have a beverage for her (and for you to be sociable), and probably smoke after she's had a meal. All that will soften the experience. You could even consider her using a filter pipe, but that's optional. Women can be surprisingly sturdy if not downright indestructible. But best go easy at the start.