Girls Now Days.

[bullet08]

My younger son goes to at university rather close to home. We let him stay at dorm so he can experience college life. For some reason, he called yesterday and let us know his friends and he will drop by. My wife went into full cleaning mode and prep some food. Including my son there were 7 kids. I guess young adults since they are 18 years old. 4 girls and 3 boys. They decided to take off early to catch the bus back to school. My wife insisted they stay for dinner and will drive them to school. Gave them Korean food and they are it. Surprised. It seems in some crowd of foodies Korean food is popular. Anyway, as soon as they were done, all girls went to the kitchen and started doing dishes! I was shocked. It's something I didn't expect from girls their age. I mean, in Korea and Japan, girls are taught to help out at kitchen. But I know a lot of Korean girls don't do that. On the other hand, all the Japanese girls I knew will run to the kitchen first thing when visiting any place with anyone older than them. I was told mainland China girls don't do that since cultural revolution. Taiwan might still, but who knows. But 18 year old girls going to one of the most liberal school in this state? No I'm not judging them. I'm just mildly surprised. We used to call this "well brought up from a good family."

 

[HawkeyeLinus]

I love to cook and do quite a lot, especially during the winter, and especially at holiday time - grilling season I mostly contribute by grilling. My wife jokes that the rule appears to be when I cook, she does the dishes and when she cooks …. she does the dishes, lol. I’m not saying that’s totally correct, but not saying it’s totally wrong.

 

[romaso]

But 18 year old girls going to one of the most liberal school in this state? No I'm not judging them. I'm just mildly surprised. We used to call this "well brought up from a good family."

Remember that they haven't been at that school long...
Glad to hear there is still courtesy in the world. I'd bet that your hospitality helped inspire it.

 

[mso489]

Like any demographic, individuals and groups are distinctly themselves and not generational clones. I can be surprised either way, but sometimes the generosity is simple human goodness, not necessarily cultural or familial. Some people see the opportunity to help and do so, unbidden. Others, seeing good manners, have the sense to go along. Some young men are equally ready to help out, not seeing anything as women's work, just helpful work.

 

[Hillcrest]

I have dishes. Vacuuming too.

 

[AcesAndEights]

I do all the cooking AND all the dishes. However, haven’t done a load of laundry or cleaned a bathroom in probably 5 years…
Can’t wait till the kids are old enough take over! Sounds great!!

 

[olkofri]

Good girls! The ones from over here should learn from them.

 

[romaso]

Good girls! The ones from over here should learn from them.

In the Arm of Orion?

 

[brian64]

Remember that they haven't been at that school long...

Yeah, give it time...they probably won't even allow you to call them girls anymore.

 

[olkofri]

In the Arm of Orion?

That's where YOU live too. We all do.

 

[romaso]

That's where YOU live too. We all do.

So there's no 'over here' or 'over there'? Just 'here'?

 

[olkofri]

So there's no 'over here' or 'over there'? Just 'here'?

Yeah, it's called 'globalisation'!

 

[JOHN72]

Before my wife arrived from her vacation, I was scrubbing all the corners of the house, dust, spider webs, human tissues, and those things when you are alone. She was surprised, and it's incredible, that she didn't detect any smell of tobacco in the living room. I am glad that some girls are running to the kitchen to help, it is sad that we are losing those customs of education and respect in some places.

 

[bassbug]

Where/when/ who with I grew up, the rule was simple you either cooked the food or cleaned up after the food. Always seemed fair to me. Mind you it would quite often end up being both because rule 2 said that you don't show up at anyone's home empty handed.

 

[condorlover1]

Fascinating! My first wife was Chinese from Peking and would never let anyone near the kitchen, maybe you might be allowed to help dry dishes if we didn't have guests. As a special treat if she was late coming from work I would be allowed to set up the rice cooker. The asian culture, you just have to love it!

 

[woodsroad]

Don’t those you g women know that they are perpetuating cultural stereotypes and oppressive gender-based role models? Well, they’ll be schooled on it all, soon enough.

I’m happy to report, though, that bs skipped my daughter andher friends. They’re always the first in the kitchen and the last out. I love cooking, as does my wife and as did our parents. The kitchen is where family stories are told, where we laugh, play music and make yummy
stuff. My daughter’s Bat Mitzvah project was on “Food as Cultural Learning”. Basically, the kitchen is where you learn who you and your loved ones are and where you come from. She went and cooked with four or five older women in our family. They kibbitzed, told stories about learning to cook with their parents, and just did a lot of laughing.

My daughter may not be one to conform to outdated, oppressive gender roles, perpetuating the bias inherent in the system, but if you’re looking for her, she’s probably in the kitchen.

 

[anotherbob]

My younger son goes to at university rather close to home. We let him stay at dorm so he can experience college life. For some reason, he called yesterday and let us know his friends and he will drop by. My wife went into full cleaning mode and prep some food. Including my son there were 7 kids. I guess young adults since they are 18 years old. 4 girls and 3 boys. They decided to take off early to catch the bus back to school. My wife insisted they stay for dinner and will drive them to school. Gave them Korean food and they are it. Surprised. It seems in some crowd of foodies Korean food is popular. Anyway, as soon as they were done, all girls went to the kitchen and started doing dishes! I was shocked. It's something I didn't expect from girls their age. I mean, in Korea and Japan, girls are taught to help out at kitchen. But I know a lot of Korean girls don't do that. On the other hand, all the Japanese girls I knew will run to the kitchen first thing when visiting any place with anyone older than them. I was told mainland China girls don't do that since cultural revolution. Taiwan might still, but who knows. But 18 year old girls going to one of the most liberal school in this state? No I'm not judging them. I'm just mildly surprised. We used to call this "well brought up from a good family."

I know it's a popular non contact sport for people my age to make fun of the current batch of youngsters. However my experience is that a lot them are more helpful, mature (like relatively speaking), informed (compared to when I was their age, they're still idiots but compared to the idiots I knew when I was their age), and I've found a lot more of them are helpful then my generation was at their age.
They still kinda of suck because people just kind of suck at that age. In my mind they're basically toddlers with hormones (side note cats are toddlers with razor claws), but adjusting for that, I am honestly astonished by the kids I meet. (other note I am generally a misanthrope, so maybe that's a factor and I am giving them credit for not eating human babies and beating the elderly for kicks.)

 

[mso489]

Many people, though perhaps not most, will surprise you with their good character. Some "bad" character is actually not knowing other people's situation, so they look rude or slovenly when they are preoccupied with their problems or otherwise on a different track from me. Most people are a mixture of good and bad traits. Their devils and their angels.

 

[sandollars]

In college, our kids will gravitate to others who have been brought up in the same fashion as themselves for a while….

It seems that when they hit their 2nd or 3rd year, they start idolizing their free thinking liberal professors that things change…. I sent 2 of my kids to my Alma mater, Stanford University and I watched firsthand how they morphed from contributors to Society, to liberal minded individuals. One even proclaimed me as an Evil Corporate Monger. I kept writing the tuition checks but I don’t donate to the school anymore. I know this is not an isolated case.

Puffy

 

[jwesthurl]

Korea food is very popular especially with the popularity of Korean fusion. I LOVE Korean food and cook it regularly for my family. I’m still looking for a nice ajumma to adopt me or at least let me watch her cook and I will be glad to wash the dishes, lol.