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Just a little curious about your other half's opinion. My wife doesnt really mind or care what i buy in the line of tobacco as its a huge savings when i order from the States.
In so far as the buying of pipes, again she doesn't seem to mind, but once in awhile she will voice a comment to the tune of; wow ur getting alot of pipes, and, isn't a collector suppose to collect them and not smoke em all. Now she has stated that she doesn't care how many pipes i buy, or how much they cost, but i have noticed lately that she seems to be aquiring more purses and boots. Hmm i wonder if there is a connection here? hahhah

Now i gotta larn how to reed and rite good

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Hey if her buying more purses and boots keeps her ok with you buying baccy and pipes, I'd let her do it

As long as I got a pipe full of baccy and a nose full of snuff, I'm a happy camper
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She likes it. Says it is now easy to find gifts for me (I was always a difficult one when it came to that).

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When we first started dating my wife didn't really like that I smoked, in any form, but she decided to put up with it. She's not at the point of loving it, but she understands and accepts it.

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My wife hates when I smoke penzance!!!!
Thats about it...she doesn't say much else about my pipes?

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My wife has been very supportive of my new obsession. She even has learned how to look interested as I go on and on about smoking minutia. Good woman.

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I smoked cigars for years and a pipe before that. Before we were married, my wife gave me a small selection of cigars as a gift..gee, thanks honey! Once we were married and had me in the tender trap, things changed. You know, the comments about the smell and about how many I smoked and making certain the poisonous fumes from my toxic cigars didn't waft into the house by making me smoke outside and away from windows. Well, after years of these loathsome restrictions (and the cost of cigars) I returned to the pipe. She has been forced to admit that the odor is not as bad as cigars, but now makes comments about how much tobacco I buy such as , 'You certainly are getting a number of those little packages in the mail.' = my response. Actually, we've been happily married for years and I respect her opinions. That being said, we're moving in March and our next house has a full basement with direct access to the garage i.e., good venting. Ah ha!! Man cave! I already let it be known that I WILL be smoking my pipe in the basement. Hmmmmm...microwave oven? Small fridge? Carpet...recliner...TV...

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She'll never see you again, you'll be living in your man cave.

(which was one of the reasons I got permission to smoke inside - I spent too much time outside smoking pipes)

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Before tobacco got to be 3.50-5$ an oz I had no objections, but now I rush home to get my " little packages ". And late night walmart runs for glass containers for storage. Haha

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My wife is very supportive! I smoked a pipe in high school (30 years ago). My wife supported me starting again by giving me an Erik Nording Canadian Estate Pipe for Christmas. I go on about my re-found hobby and she is very sweet about it..she even talks about room note and has a few favorite room notes. My wife is the big sports fan and encourages me to sit with her and smoke when she is watching NBA.

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@frtimmyd

My wife has been very supportive of my new obsession. She even has learned how to look interested as I go on and on about smoking minutia.

Good woman.

Exactly. She definitely gets points for that.

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My wife has been very supportive of my new obsession. She even has learned how to look interested as I go on and on about smoking minutia.

yeah mine will do that, but she openly (frequently) states she doesnt like me smoking

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My wife still dislikes it, but something happend yesterday that I found was hilarious.

I was getting an oil change and was outside smoking a pipe and reading a book for the 15-20 mins they did the 863 checks on the car or whatever. After that I went to go pick her up from work and when we were in the elevator on the way down after a few smooches she asks me, "Is that coffee I smell?"

She thought the after-taste/smell of Lane 1Q was that of coffee and not horrid smoke that she complains that I smell of after I'm done enjoying a pipe.

Simply hilarious. So far it is the only tobacco that really doesn't offend her in any way.

So she shouldn't mind that I'm on my last ounce and I just placed an order for more right?

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My wife (non-smoker) was always easygoing about this sort of thing. Moreso than me, definitely. When I started making noise about wondering about pipes she was the one who pushed me to get my first to try it out. Since then it's been a balancing act. She accepts it, loves the room/moustache note and has bought me two of my nicest pipes as gifts, but she doesn't visit me that often outdoors or in my garage haunt. I don't go through enough tobacco to make it a cost issue.

Overall, I'd say I'm winning.

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My fiance doesn't mind my pipe smoking. She likes to sit on the patio with me and enjoy a cup of tea while I puff away. Also she doesn't give me grief for PADs or TADs, because she gets a lot of clothes with her extra money. Her view is, as long as the bills are paid it doesn't matter what I spend my money on.

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My wife doesn't mind me buying tobacco or pipes,but every once in awhile i notice her taking a mental inventory of what i got.

I will give up my pipe when they pry my cold dead fingers off of it!

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Wife doesn't mind me smoking pipes or cigars. She said since I no longer drank or smoked cigarettes she was ok. She said everyone deserves a vice. Got to love her.

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The War Department: "Oooo you're smoking that stinky stuff again."

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My wife used to smoke cigarettes when we were dating and for several years after we were married. At that time I also smoked a pipe with the occasional cigar during the week. It wasn't a real big deal to her, but she did complain about some of the blends making the house "stink." A few years later she quit smoking, and now she is a bit of an irritant towards my pipe smoking. She's gone to the dark side to some degree as a "former smoker" turned anti. That has been and will likely always be a point of contention for as long as we are married. (25 years now) She stopped nagging me so much when one day she was ratting me out to some friends and girlfriends that I smoked a "stinky pipe and made the house stink...." One of the women in the group, a very attractive one I might add, told her "send him over to my house, I love the smell of a pipe and a man that smokes a pipe...." She gave one of her icy stares that sends the dogs running for cover. That diminished the comments for a while. The only concession I have made over the years is to not smoke in the house. I smoke in my shop, in my truck, and on the deck and patio. That is not negotiable. My TAD/PAD purchases leave her somewhat "accepting", but begrudgingly. She stumbled onto my TAD "mother lode" in the cellar the other day and I thought she was going to pass out. "Why are you keeping this in the tornado room, with all the water and food supplies....." To me the answer was obvious, its with the required survival supplies.

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gecko13:

its with the required survival supplies.

Indeed it is!!!!

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@Lawence - That about sums it up. Only thing I might add is a nice scotch.

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My girlfriend say she would prefer that I dont smoke but, she never really says anything about my smoking. My mother on the other hand absolutely hates it

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My darling bride quite likes my pipes and was a big force in our decision to turn a spare room into a den when it needed to be restored following some rain damage. (We'd thought about a craft room for her, but she needs more space and is happy having taken over the guest room for now.) We're both pleased with how the room turned out and have taken to having our "Dad's home from work" chats there most evenings, and to reading together in the rare quiet moments on the weekend.

She's got a sensitive nose and always claimed -- when I smoked more cigars than pipes -- to be able to tell if I'm smoking a "good cigar" or not. She doesn't love some of the room notes of some pipe tobaccos, but considers none of them as oppressive as most cigars. She also thinks pipes are "kinda sexy," and who am I to tell her otherwise?

She, too, likes how easy it makes gift giving -- at Christmas I got a really nifty Xikar Scribe pipe lighter that I now use daily; my favorite lighter by a wide margin. She also really appreciates the artistry and craftsmanship of some of the pipes I have.

I'm always a little befuddled by fellows who post that their wife "won't allow this" or "doesn't permit that." Just not how our home is arranged, I suppose. But then, one of "Robert's Rules" is: "No one understands anyone else's marriage."

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Never asked my wife. She will sit outside with me and smoke a nail. Occasionally comment on the smell. She tends to like the Middletons Apple that I will smoke once in a while.

Dudes of the world abide.

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I'm pretty much free to smoke in the garage or outside all that I like. No more smoking in the car now that we have a baby (4 mos old on Friday), and no smoking in the house at all. She made her parents quit cigarettes in return for allowing them to handle the baby, so it would be hypocritical of me to smoke in the house. I know, I know, pipe smoke isn't as dangerous as cigarette smoke, but that argument is why I'm still allowed to smoke in the garage at all. She does like the smell, though.

We're having our yearly rugby formal/awards banquet tomorrow night, and she's not going to be able to go, so I will get to enjoy a pipe outside the bars tomorrow with the team.

There's a million fine looking women in the world, but not all of them will let you smoke. Most of them just cheat on you.

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The only thing she ever says is "Don't you have some like that?" At which point I go on to show the differences at which point the little woman in her head is telling her "Nod and smile, I think the quilt show is this weekend. Did I feed the dog?"

After 35 years the rapids of our marriage is over, I hope, and the smooth waters let us drift on to the sunset.

Sometimes she will go into my office and comment about the stinky pipe cleaners in the bin, at which point I then agree and empty the bin. We can put up with a lot of stinky in the bin, we are after all, men.

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To boil one's coffee and fill one's pipe, and to think idly and slowly as one does it.

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Why do they always feel they can change us? The got with us the way we are now so why attempt to mold us or manuver us into a corner. Ever see a cornered badger?

I love my wife to death (hopefully it doesn't get that bad), but she can nagg like Marge Simpsons sisters. I stopped smoking a pipe for cigarettes out of the convinience factor. But now that i realize the cost effectiveness of smoking a pipe i have come back and I dont think i am going to quit any time soon. Wish she could understand i need this. it helps me relax like her Vodka helps her relax. GRRRRRRR

If you can't pack it, light it, and smoke it then why do it. It's a dieing art that must be rekindled in all of us as fortold by our forefathers.

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My wife has been a cig smoker as long as I've known her, she stopped twice for 8 months, each time while she was pregnant. So you know where she is at, she actually encouraged me to return to the pipe. I don't smoke in the house, but that's my choice as she does and says if I want to it's fine with her. She does not like some of the blends I smoke and will readily state if she enjoys the note of one or not. With that guidance I will smoke blends like Celtic Talisman, her favorite, or a mild cavendish when she's in the car or sitting with me outside. She has bought me several very nice pipes, but stays away from buying tobacco because she understands she don't know anything about it. She has stated that all the wierd wood I have sorta looks the same, so I gently point out her collection of dolls are virtually all the same, just different dresses, at least some of my pipes are made by different people.

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I'm happy then she is happy and vice versa!

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I guess my wife's remarks the other day were some kind of evidence. My doctor recently put me on new medicine and didn't want me to drink or do any other drugs. I said fine, I am not the kind of person who needs a drink every day and when I do I don't usually drink more than two. My wife had asked me about it and I told her that all I really do now, except for a Scotch or mixed drink every week or so is smoke my pipe.

She said, "Well that doesn't count as a drug." I found that pretty funny but decided now was not the time to lecture on the definition of a drug.

she also got me a bad ass Peterson for Christmas, so I think we're good here.

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My wife is indifferent to Virginias, dislikes English blends, but still does not argue with me smoking in the house. We have been married for 11 years, and I have always had a room that I used to smoke/think/drink in. She gets the rest of the house to decorate however she wants!

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My wife is an ex-coffin nail smoker and has, over the years, evolved (devolved) into one of the smoke nazis we've all come to know. Sad to say I can only smoke my pipe away from home. Even then she occasionally grouses about how I'm killing myself. It's a house devided, at least on this issue.

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My wife would rather me smoke the pipe than cigarettes, Even though I smoke outside or in my shop she has never complained about me smoking either one. She is an ex-smoker and still talks to me about how she misses smoking once in a blue moon (thats the reason that I smoke outside) She likes the smell of pipe tobacco and She will point out different pipes that She thinks look nice or fitting to me. So all in all, She doesnt' have a problem with it. (Thank Goodness)

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I'm lucky!The wife loves the smell of a good cigar or pipe.

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OK my wife of almost 20 years thinks that picking up the pipe is not one of my better decisions. But, she knows the hours and stress of my job. She knows I will never endanger the family budget by smoking. I always smoke outside and wash immedately afterwards, so I don't set off her ashma. I don't like the smelly blends. She actually finds it interesting that she has found another facet of my personality. Still, if I must smoke, she prefers I use the BBQ grill instead.

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I have been with the same woman for some time, and am contemplating engagement (this has been discussed in detail with this woman, and at this point seems inevitable and quite exciting). She has shown some disapproval of tobacco consumption of any kind, however, has also joked about giving me a smoking jacket as an engagement gift. It is something that is part of my life, and she seems to accept that. One of the many things that I find irresistible about this woman...

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Me and my wife have a understanding my house my money my rules atleast she lets me think that.
What i say goes.... right out the window.
I am the king of the castel when she is not around.
I ware te pants in the family because she zips them up......

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My wife does not mind, however I imagine she knows within pennies exactly how much I spend. It is all cataloged in her head for her shopping sprees. Sometimes I forget how much a favorite tobacco was an ounce. I just ask her and she can tell me to the penny, including shipping.

"You have to be a man first before you're a gentleman. "

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My girlfriend doesn't really have a problem with it. There are some blends I smoke that she doesn't like the room note of though.

"Those who would give up essential Liberty, to purchase a little temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety."
- Benjamin Franklin

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