How to Find Smoking Buddies in College/Real Life

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I smoke in my back yard, the park if/when we are in town and don't worry about company. For me, the pipe is an escape, allowing me to relax and enjoy the surroundings more.

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Jay.

Smoking your pipe in the designated smoking areas might trigger some conversation from curious smokers. Last time someone asked me about my pipe, and where I got it, where to get the tobacco, nicotine contents and all. A security guard who happened to be walking by also complimented me on the nice pipe aroma. You never know. Just don't sit or stand there with your nose in your smart phone like so many smokers do and you might strike conversation with people who might become buddies later on.
It all depends on how shy you are and how far you are willing to go beyond your normal comfort zone.
I'm in university too, and I'd definitely recommend checking out some of the student groups/societies. Even if you don't attend all their events, you can make it to one or two during the semester. It'd help you unwind a bit from the pressure of the classes as well. I recommend the groups because you can choose which one to join, whose members have, at least in theory, the same interests and values that you have. This won't necessarily happen at the smoking areas: there, you meet all kinds, and some might not be the kind of people you want to hang around.

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First off, I would suggest not being so picky. I value friends that are into different things than me. I don't drink, but I don't mind if my friends drink, friends with different religions, different hobbies, interests, opinions, etc... variety keeps life interesting. Humans are social, and we require it to various degrees. Join a club, join a church, go to a bar, coffeehouse, sign up for an intermural sport, go to a cigar shop, randomly invite someone to a concert, or a movie...
As you get older, it gets even harder. You will work, come home, and get married, and your wife will want you at home, and then kids and carting them about. Then, when the kids are gone... you'll just be an old man setting on the porch smoking. Nothing wrong with that, but... it just gets harder the older you are. Me? I will go do anything for or with anyone that asks (well, maybe not anything, ha ha). My pipe club friends are my favorite peoples. We have a group of about four of us that have been members since started the club, and we try to get together for food or vineyard tours (yep, even a teetotaler like me can find a vineyard interesting). But, there's also church and just old friends that I try to keep in touch with that now are scattered about. But, make as many friends as possible now, so that you will have folks that you can drive across the country to visit and reminisce with, and make new memories with.
Any friend is a good friend, IMO. Even you guys. ,

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I agree with them, get out an smoke and you will find others. I always find myself talking to pipe smokers when I see them.

The few locals that I smoke pipes with became pipe smokers after seeing me with mine. Pick a time and place to smoke, and you may be surprised by what happens.

Go out and meet people. Don't be afraid to strike up a conversation with someone. If you see someone wearing a concert shirt from a band you like, say you like their shirt. That usually gets a conversation going, and you can take it from there.
Finding pipe smokers out in the wild is akin to finding Bigfoot. Best thing you can do is walk around with your pipe, or go to a bar and smoke your pipe, or just be out in public with your pipe. You might have to make some loud howling type noises and knock some tree branches together.

I got a great conversation from some random guy about pipes. He took a seat when I was just relaxing, and we talked for hours. Sometimes the best companion for conversation is someone you wouldn't expect. People who see you smoking a pipe are usually intrigued by it, especially if it's a college student.

'99, this is an interesting question, and you are pretty straightforward with it. Between the genders, women get most of the friendship genes. They gravitate toward groups of women and pick out closer friends from among the ones they meet. Conversation is enough of a starter for them, and they readily follow up to keep friendships going, and feel responsible to maintain the friendships they develop, over time and often over distance. So that's how it's done, but men don't do it, or do it much less. One thing I've noticed is that men bond over activities. I think you have to come in contact with quite a few potential friends to have one work. And you need an activity to share. You probably need to prompt yourself or you'll just let it slide even though you like your friend okay. Wives, girlfriends (sometimes both), jobs and kids will always get priority, so you can't be too needy, and neither can he. I have one friend that goes back to high school, and another back to undergrad college, and one or two from grad school, a schoolmate and a prof. But these are all long-distance and only periodic. If you have one good close friend you will be a lucky man, if two or three, a richly lucky man. Granted, some guys have a real gift for male friends -- these tend to be extroverts who get a lot of energy from lots of people contact. Unfortunately, that's not me, nor most of us. In a few lines of work, friendships with both genders without the presumption of romantic attachments are understood -- academe, some arts communities, and others. Women make great (actual) friends because they already have all of this down cold, but I think people still need some same-gender friends. Good luck.