I am abjectly unqualified to give advice, but I have come to approach lighting a pipe like I light a fire. The kindling, the build, and patience are all important factors.
I use a stuff/air pocket method to pack my pipes. My initial draw is very loose. I spend some time charring and tamping the first few lights; sometimes it takes longer than other times to prime the tobacco. Then I light the center of the bowl, trying to avoid lighting the entire surface. I repair the light as I go, as needed, without caring very much about how often I need to relight.
I consider my screw ups as learning experiences. Since I'm still in pipe-diapers (smoking them for only about a year, now), I don't get too frustrated.
After my fourth bowl, I burned my tongue so badly that I still have scars. I have learned so much in the past year. I have actually started to develop my own ritual. Pipes are becoming as much a part of me as my Cuban cigars were for the past decade or so.
Stick with it. Read. Watch videos. Try different methods of packing, lighting, drying, sipping, etc. Try different pipes (as you are able to afford them without taking out a second mortgage - a great deal more difficult to avoid than you might think).
It has been more than worth it for me.