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jwlinder111

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I know this has absolutely nothing to do with pipes or anything else for that matter I just don't know where else to reach to I tried calling a close family friend I tried calling a concern hotline and both told me to call back later they were both busy so I come here. I am so sick with life anymore I don't know what to do anymore my relationship is failing I've been out of work for nine weeks and am so behind I'm bout to lose everything I'm a terrible father I literally don't know what else to do my girl knows I am not happy with some things but knows not that I just want to kill my self I litter ally just can't do it I don't know where I've gone so wrong in my life yes I haven't been the best man but I do understand why everything had to go this way I'm so stressed out with bills and my girls mom and her baby daddy with court and bills and everything I just can't do it anymore and don't know what will fix it. I'm sorry for bringing this onto y'all I just know not where to turn for any help

 

didimauw

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You need to smoke more my friend...we have all been there. Keep ur head up. Life really sucks sometimes but you gotta keep going.

 

didimauw

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I lost my dad, then my best friend, then my mom and my child hood dog all in a 3 year period. You need to stay strong.

 

pipedreamin

Starting to Get Obsessed
Feb 25, 2016
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First off, NEVER do anything rash over money or lack of it. It isn't worth it, as a matter of fact, it isn't worth anything.
Communicate with your creditors, send them a pittance but send something, regularly, till work flow picks up, and it will.
Terrible fathers aren't reflective enough to consider the notion they may be terrible fathers. The fact you think yourself one most likely means you aren't.
You're in the fire man, and what is essential cannot be destroyed by it. Plod onward, make some changes to simplify, the going will get easier. That's what this game is all about.

 

jwlinder111

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Aug 13, 2016
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I can only beg for so long I can only plead I am losing everything and without it I am not and deserve nothing I'm so lost I don't know what to even feel anymore

 

pitchfork

Lifer
May 25, 2012
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jwlinder111,
The most important thing for you to do -- RIGHT NOW -- is to talk to someone and tell them why you're depressed and having thoughts of suicide. Do you have a friend you can call? Or a parent? Or a sibling? It doesn't matter, but the first, best step is to talk to someone -- anyone -- and tell them what you're going through.
In the U.S., you can also call these folks -- the only reason they exist is to take phone calls from people like you and get them help.

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

1-800-273-TALK (8255)

 

jerwynn

Lifer
Dec 7, 2011
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jwlinder111 PLEASE take some of the above suggestions and get professional or familial or personal or religious help ASAP.
I have been to the severe extreme edge myself several times, my family roots have terrible histories of major depressive disorders, as I do myself.
I've learned two things and survive(d):
One is that no matter how bad the terrible agonizing despair is, IT WILL PASS!! EVERY dmn time. And it has and does. The regret that would fill the void of a life taken to soon is irretractable.
The other thing is this: "suicide only happens when ones suffering overwhelms ones coping resources". This, to me, has become a clarion call to beef up coping resources INSTEAD of killing myself. And it has come many ways, loving family doctor, cognitive behavioral therapist, psychiatric specialists, dear friends and family, books, spirituality, diet, exercise... there are a million things that can help beef up ones coping resources... they are all better than the alternative. Please receive the blessing in my tagline. You are loved... people care!

 

hakchuma

Part of the Furniture Now
Jan 13, 2014
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I suggest you watch this video right here my friend.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RjudO5Xfibc

 

grouchydog

Can't Leave
Oct 16, 2013
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Take no action for the next 24 hours. That's it - 24 hours. Then commit to another 24 hours and repeat. Do not think beyond 24 hours at this point.
Make a list - WRITE IT ON PAPER - of the people who would be hurt if you took drastic action. Be honest, be real - you will know who would be devastated. Parents, grandparents (I don't know your age), uncles & aunts, children, cousins, grandchildren, friends, coworkers, and on and on. The list will likely be longer that you imagine at first thought. That has been a huge help to me. Above all, you have a daughter who needs (and wants, but primarily NEEDS) her daddy.
I've been there, and very recently. I am learning to take life one hour, one minute, one breath at a time - during times like this, that must be sufficient.
And as recommended, get professional help from wherever you can find it, regardless of financial issues. Online forum members can provide some advice, but you need face-to-face counsel with someone who's trained and experienced with what you're feeling.

 

perdurabo

Lifer
Jun 3, 2015
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It fucking sucks, but hey it can only get better. The struggle will teach you to dig yourself out of these holes. Women will only drag you back down. When I crawl into that deep dark hole, I only come up to watch the night fall with the rain, but the struggle makes a stronger man.

 

igloo

Lifer
Jan 17, 2010
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There is only one thing to do . Start over ! It sounds as if your world is going to crumble no matter what you do . Just let it happen . When all the dust settles you can have a fresh start and you will learn what is really important to you . Until then I recommend you see a doctor to get pointed in the right direction .

 

smoky

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Aug 24, 2016
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Hmm. If the OP is for real, then I say killing yourself is the selfish and easy way out. No one ever said life was going to be easy. I guarantee you many people throughout history have had it a lot tougher than you and pulled through it. If you are a man, then be a damn man and learn to deal with the good and bad in life. That is all.

 

smoky

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Aug 24, 2016
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Ass, huh? I was telling it like it is. Someone should. Suicide is the wrong and selfish way out. Life is hard. Giving up is not the answer. Being a man and dealing with the challenges of life is. :wink:

 
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